Well, here goes. Because I correspond with lady stars, I know that most of
      them are fine with the rough sex. I also know that it's not
      particularly always a rocking-good sexual experience.

      Taking a baseball bat up the ass hurts, no matter how much anal a gal
      does, and gagging is not a pleasant physical sensation for anyone.

      I'm an empath, so I imagine how something feels to the woman on screen,
      and I react emotionally and physically to every action. If the woman
      is gagging--audibly choking back puke--I will want to puke.

      Queaziness cancels out sexual arousal for me.

      This is why I avoid all-oral titles like the plague now. Back in the
      day when blowjobs were about finesse, skill and subtlety, I'd have
      watched one. Not today.

      Same goes for all-anal titles. I'm fine with DPs, and with sensual
      anal following vaginal.
      But the shove-it-straight-in-her-ass-without-mercy approach turns me
      way, way off. I know that the girls prep themselves, sometimes for
      hours before these scenes, and that it's still uncomfortable sometimes.

      Being a practioner of anal sex and knowing that the sensation
      alternates between pain, discomfort, pleasure and back to pain, I
      don't like watching girls abuse their asses. Turns me off.

      I also dislike all circus acts. I have no interest in seeing how many
      cocks can fit in one woman's ass or pussy. Couldn't care less. If I
      wanted to see a freak show, I'd watch Fear Factor or Jackass, and I
      don't like those shows either.

      Name-calling and humilation are turn-offs for me too.

      
      All that said, I love rough sex.
      I'm one of the few advocates of careful manual choking. I know you
      disapprove of it. Most men do. Most men don't understand why a woman
      would love it. I'd be happy to discuss this act with you further, but
      for now I'll just say that it strikes a primitive mating chord in
      women. The man demonstrates his dominance and more importantly, his
      restraint when he carefully wraps his hand around a woman's neck.
      It's the tenderest of all submission holds. I love hair-pulling, I
      love brutal spanking (I want her ass to glow), all manner of submission
      holds, and hard, hard, hard vaginal f..king. I want to see a guy
      dominate a woman physically--to overpower her, to demonstrate his
      superior strength. And I want him to inflict pleasure on her.

      There's a scene in 'I Love It Rough #2' (scene 3) between Manuel Ferrara
      and Lana Coxx. That is one of my very favorite rough scenes. The only
      thing I dislike about it is Manuel making Lana speak to the camera,
      because it destroyed the intimacy they'd previously created with all the
      seriously rough sex preceding it. Other than that, I totally got off on
      it. Every other scene on that disc, including Manuel's other scene (he's
      one of my favorites, depending on the scene), I found completely
      unwatchable. Those were circus acts. But scene 3, that's some f..king
      hot, rough, perfect sex.

      I'm just really particular. I like certain elements of rough sex. I'm
      really turned on by an obvious dominant/aggressive man tempering his
      strength and showing some restraint, in the interest of pleasuring the
      woman. I want him to 'love her rough', I guess. I want him to pin her
      down and make her cum. I want him to ruthlessly assault her with
      unbearable pleasure. I don't want him to mistreat her and call her names
      or make a fool out of her. I don't want him to make her service him. I
      find nothing sexy about that.

      Does that make sense? What I like isn't easy to find, but I'm coming to
      learn that if I check out movies/scenes with relatively-new girls in
      them, the guys will tend to be nicer to them. They're still rough,
      they're just not assholes about it.

      Michael Stefano is really good for that type of thing. He says nice
      things to a girl while he spanks her face, and gently f..ks her ass. See
      what I mean?

      Anyway, that's my 20 cents on that.

      Pagoda




I've never thought to label myself, but I guess one could say I'm a 
progressive female.  I'm an advocate for women's sexual equality.  Here's 
another blurb I wrote on ADT.  This might help explain how I view myself:

***
There are two types of feminists:

1) Those that seek equality by opening new avenues to women in all aspects 
   in life, including sex, by celebrating womanhood in all its glory.

2) Those that seek equality by closing avenues to men, particularly sex, 
   stripping the joy out of manhood.

I'm a feminist of the first type, and I'm in a minority. My type of feminism 
   is often seen as ignorance or complacency by other feminists.

I have a daughter, so I must be an advocate for women. But I also have a 
   son, and I must advocate for him, too. I oppose the method of giving my 
   daughter a priveledge by stripping one from my son.

Most feminists believe that porn is an objectifcation of women, and that any 
   woman who performs in porn is exploited, whether she knows it or not,
   simply because men derive sexual pleasure from her performance.

   I find that assertion insulting in the extreme, to both men and women.

***

Pagoda


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Thank you Pagoda for sharing your thoughts with us.

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